Why "Consistency" Doesn't Work For Everyone
Let me start by saying: “Consistent” practice is not the same as DEVOTED practice.
Devoted practice works, I think, because it drops judgement + embraces flow.
Consistent practice fails, because it easily becomes about “checking the box,” like brushing your teeth (v existing in the entirety of experience).
I used to believe the internet lie that consistency is key to success, and happiness, and ease:
“Successful people wake up at the same time every day. Happy people move through the same morning routine every day. They eat the same breakfast, at the same time, every day.”
Maybe that’s true - for some of us. But it’s not my experience (and maybe it’s not yours either).
My belief is that: we’re not designed to do the same thing, at the same time, every day.
Women especially (but men, too!) are designed to move through cycles:
We cycle through hormones every month, we cycle through pregnancy-birth-postpartum over 2+ years for each of our babes (if we have them), we cycle through drastically different ages + stages in our hopefully long lifetimes.
Which means, “consistent” practice doesn’t serve us in the way it’s advertised.
Devoted practice might, though.
My point is, if you are DEVOTED to yourself more than the practice, your practice can change - your practice can grow as you do!
Because you can trust yourself.
You can try and try again, believing that your sole purpose in this world is just that: to show the heck up, to DEVOTE yourself to yourself.
Thoughts on this? Share a comment below! Would love to hear your experience with these words, too.
xx, alycia buenger
