Since the first quarantine in March, I’ve been recalibrating how I spend my days - often.

Most recently I’ve switched my working hours from afternoon naptime to before-the-kids-wake-up mornings.

Because the way we feel inside daily life is what informs everything else: how we interact with our kids, how productive we can be with work, whether or not we show up to our practice.

Which is to say, it’s important. Most important, maybe.

The purpose of RITUAL practice is often to signify a change from the everyday experience, he said.

This happens with “coming of age” rituals, holiday traditions, marriage ceremonies, baptisms (all sacred ceremonies you find within different religions and spiritual traditions).

But this also happens with things like bedtime prayers, journaling practice, and morning routines.

Because, put simply: a RITUAL is something you do in patterned intervals to mark an important change.

I’ve been in the “regularly anxious and overwhelmed” category since I was a kid.

Overwhelm is so familiar to me by now, I often know the cause, and even the solution! But somehow, it’s still incredibly hard to escape.

Probably because, I’m trying to escape… v. stay long enough to move through it.

Some of the greatest teachers of our time (Danielle LaPorte’s Desire Map, all of Glennon Doyle’s words) - they say, “Desire is what leads us deeper into ourselves!”

And that’s my experience, too.

LEAD WITH DESIRE is one of the key parts of my work: first, because women often don't (and why not experiment!); second, because that's what's divinely gifted as guidance in the right direction.

The basic rule is this: Ritualize what supports you (i.e. do more of what you desire). And limit what doesn't (i.e. do less of what you don't).

I’ve felt it. You’ve likely felt it.

“There’s not enough time for me.”

Because there really isn’t - not inside a system that devalues a woman’s time.

We might have the same number of HOURS in the day, but not everyone is deemed the same amount of VALUABLE by society (and not everyone has the same number of OPPORTUNITIES to use time freely).

Let me start by saying: “Consistent” practice is not the same as DEVOTED practice.

Devoted practice works, I think, because it drops judgement + embraces flow.

Consistent practice fails, because it easily becomes about “checking the box,” like brushing your teeth (v existing in the entirety of experience).